Stop Bullying and Hazing
LISLE, Ill. — PRLog – At the youth sports level, small intimidating acts often start as a fun thing. People believe it’s just “kids being kids.” Harmless actions may begin with knocking off players’ hats or snickering. But it can get uglier with someone pulling another player’s shorts down and making fun of others. Players laugh and think it’s amusing, so coaches believe everything is OK. The problem is that the taunted player may not be laughing inside. The seemingly fun acts turn into bullying – aggressive behavior that means to intimidate. The bully wants to exert control over another.
Just as dangerous is hazing – rituals that initiate players to the team in some way. The consequences of bullying and hazing are psychological and emotional confusion. Those offensive actions can depress the victims for a long time.
Hazing, bullying, and harassment of any sort have no place in sports, at any level. Youth sports coaches need to be able to recognize that what might seem like fun to some is offensive and hurtful to others. When coaches do nothing, things can escalate quickly. You must stop harassment at the initial sign of it no matter how innocuous it seems. Suggestions to stop harassment in its tracks.
Coaches Should stop Bullying and hazing:
Ø Never bully players, either. Players will follow a coach’s lead, and if they see adults do it, they will act the same.
Ø Tell parents they should be careful of what they tell their children. With or without realizing it, some parents encourage behavior that leads to harassment. When parents give their child instructions like “Take no bull from anyone” and “Show them how tough you are,” it may result in alarming incidents.
Ø Institute a no-harassment rule to everyone at the first parent gathering. Inform parents that any sign of threatening player-to-player behavior is unacceptable. You should advise parents to relay this message to their kids.
Ø Encourage team members to come to the coaches if another person bothers them in any way. A subtle sign of harassment is small talk when players are out of the coach’s hearing range. Any report of players picking on others is worth investigating.
Ø Have a policy of keeping words to self, no swearing, and no offensive talk about body parts.
Ø Institute these guidelines to help stop bullying:
· Hands-off others.
· No “cutting in line.”
· No laughing at other players’ play or skill level.
· No trash talking.
Ø Watch for and discourage cliques. Small groups may exclude others and be another subtle sign of player mistreatment.
Ø Watch for and disallow any signs of an initiation ritual, even when it seems like harmless behavior. Once players believe it’s OK, initiations can lead to distasteful acts the next time.
Ø Talk to athletes whose demeanor changes to find out if anything is bothering them. Individual conversations are always necessary if you notice behavior changes.
Ø Show appreciation for all and talk to teams with consideration, too.
Ø Talk to the team often about the importance of valuing teammates and opposing teams.
Never dismiss offensive actions as kids just being kids.
Coaches must follow up on any accusations, even in cases where the accused is the child of a close friend, one of the best players, or a coach’s child.
If we stop bullying and hazing at the lower levels, it will limit them at the upper levels.
Jack Perconte has dedicated his post-major league baseball career to helping youth. He has taught baseball and softball for the past 28 years. His playing, coaching and parenting stories create better experiences for athletes and parents. Jack has written over a thousand articles on coaching baseball and youth sports. Jack is the author of “The Making of a Hitter” and “Raising an Athlete.” His third book “Creating a Season to Remember” is now available. Jack is a featured writer for Baseball the Magazine. You can also find Jack Perconte on YouTube with over 120 fun and innovative baseball instructional videos.